Kindness in low supply as well as other basic needs.
I wanted to share how my day went today and probably this is something similar to your day. It is sad how our normal lives have taken a drastic turn. As you know I work from home and don’t really get to go outside that much. Today I decided to look for toilet papers before we ran out of our own supply. I wanted to be responsible and not to add to the people who are outside so I decided to call stores. I called publix that was nearest to the house. No toilet paper, as expected. Nevertheless, I made it a point to ask how the person was on the other line and letting them know of our gratitude for still working. I also wished them to continue to be safe and take care. Next call, Dollar Tree, no one was answering the phone. Then called CVS, no answer. So I went ahead and proceeded to going outside.
I went to CVS first as it was closest to our house. There was no toilet paper but I ended up buying dayquil and nyquil because I thought I might as well prepare for the symptoms if I get it since I’m the government is telling us that they want to SLOW DOWN the spread meaning the spread might still happen and we might eventually get it. So I went ahead and got me some medicine and even cough drops just in case. I noticed that there were so many elderly around me. I tried to distance myself. I overheard an older lady asking about distilled water and how she needs it for her health and how it has ran out. I see many older people still shopping. I left the store feeling bad.
Living in Florida, we always joke around how the whole state of Florida is a retirement capital. Even the neighborhood that I live in coincidentally was created to entice retirees to live in a quiet neighborhood that is still within the city. In just the street that I live in, I have 3 neighbors who are retired – 1 of which I constantly try to watch every now and then as she has had several medical incidents. Sometimes I’m scared to find an ambulance in front of her house and feel relieved seeing her ok the next day. Going outside today just reminded me how much more seniors live among us and who need our help more than ever.
My next and supposedly my last stop was Dollar Tree. I was thinking that maybe I’d have some luck there. No toilet paper but there were plenty of kleenex (limit to 4 per person). So it wasn’t a wasted trip. Once again I see a lot of elderly people. Usually I smile at people. But this time I just kept my distance and just grabbed what I needed, kleenex definitely then stumbled upon random things like pens and chocolates — ended up getting some of those too. I proceeded to the check out counter. The guy in the counter had white hair but I didn’t expect him to start off with this small talk and said “I’m 75 years old, and you know how I got to this age?” I immediately responded “by not eating chocolates?” lol He said, “no, by slowing down. you need to slow down don’t worry take your time.” I wasn’t aware that I looked like I was in a hurry but then again I’ve been told I look hyper and high energy all the time. After I paid I hand sanitized and left went to the car and for some weird reason I felt like staying there for a moment. I eventually drove away. Then as I was on a red light waiting for the green light, I realized that I had forgotten to bring the bag of kleenex with me. So I immediately made a u-turn at the first possible opportunity and headed back to the Dollar Tree. I felt embarrassed to have to walk in there because if I had listened to the old man and slowed down then maybe I would have been able to remember to grab my bag. When I walked in he told me that he had given it to a girl who tried to give it to me. But it turns out she walked away with it. But he had told me to still get what I needed. I grabbed the ones that were on my receipt, luckily I kept my receipt and had proof of what I bought. But I cannot believe that girl had taken my stuff that I paid for.
I had to go back to the corner where the kleenex is and while I was grabbing my kleenex a paper towel fell on me! I looked around and this old man was trying to get a paper towel from the top shelf. I told him I was fine and I can try to help, “I am short but I can climb it if needed. But I do see some of those at the bottom shelf. How many do you need?” He says he’s good with just 1 paper towel and went on his way. I went back to grabbing my kleenex. Then on my left this time, an old man talking to himself, “well this seems to be a good deal, I can use this in the toilet.” I was puzzled. I thought he had found toilet papers and saw him looking at the table napkins. He turned to me seemed to be waiting for a response. I felt obliged and said, “oh yes, definitely that is a good deal for that much.” He added, “these could work for me.” My heart sank. I wanted to tell him to take my kleenex instead since it’s softer but I told myself not to ruin his good mood and just continued to encourage him as that’s all I could do for his situation.
I went back to the counter and showed that I only took what was on the receipt of the bag I left behind and showed him the bag that I had so to make sure that I didn’t take anything extra. The old man said, “listen, don’t worry about it.” I told him that I should have listened to him and slowed down. He smiled. I said sorry again for the trouble.
As I was leaving I couldn’t let myself go home without doing something good. When I first arrived at the Dollar Tree, I noticed a girl who had a sign needing help. Normally I don’t like giving anything as I know that not everyone use it to help themselves but it could be for drugs. So I gave her a box of chocolate instead that I got from the store. I did ask her if she saw a lady with a plastic bag filled with kleenex. She said that she did and she seemed to be looking for someone for a moment. I told her that if she sees her again to tell her to return the items to the store if possible. She thanked me for the chocolate and I told her to stay safe. Then I went home.
There’s not a lot of kindness going around. But I still feel like I did experience some of that today. However, I do feel like we need more of it. You may notice that I emphasized the elderly on this post. I truly feel for them. They are truly struggling right now. If I’m struggling to find toilet paper, then the more they are struggling. Please don’t be selfish. Please only take or buy what you need. We all need to survive. That includes the elderly. They are our neighbors too. Let’s help our elderly and other families, by not panic buying and by only buying what we need for now. Please. Let’s all help in sharing kindness by being considerate. It’s not just about going outside or staying at home. Yes, you are staying at home to help with not spreading the virus. But you also bought so many supplies that your family will take months to use up. While your family is safe at home with abundance of supplies, another family is struggling still going out to look for more supplies. Kindness comes in many forms. It can be done directly or indirectly. So in a way, you have been unkind indirectly but the impact is as bad. So please be kind and be considerate. We are all in this together. We are all struggling. So we must all strive to help one another.
ASL 03.21.2020 (Clearwater, FL)